Saturday, August 16, 2008
from a friend." ok...hypothetically speaking...you have a girlfriend. and lets say your gf gets mad at you cos you still hang out with other girls, just you and that girl, the two of you going out. you are just friends with her. you dont kiss and hug. but is it right? is it right for you to go out with other girls like that when you're attached, even if you dont do couple stuff? for me, i just dont like it. >( "well, on a guy's perspective, getting all freaked out and jealousy over ur gf hanging out with her male friend is pretty much a norm for all guys. lets all admit it guys. you may blabber non-stop saying nahhhh, she's a good buddy of mine or we have been friends for years. but hell no. the roving eyes does suffice when she happens to have an up-skirt, down-blouse or whatever shit that allow ur eyes "into" her clothes or getting ur hands on her. but we all know how guys can make the roving hands look all so innocent and pure. *only apply if ur girl buddy is hot* he may even be wanking off to ur pics every damn night and acting all so coyly the next day infront of you. yes. guys can be real chameleons.back to topic...at the start of a r/s, the girl would probably go "awww..he's so cute! he'll gets so jealously over some guys! he loves me so much! " but as the days, months or even years goes by, this is sadly not the case anymore. she'll most probably label you as a damn bloody jealously imbecile or an overly sensitive freak. i have to admit that it is a fine thin line between being jealous or being overly jealous which i have not fathom yet. but can't you sit back and think simple? why did he get so jealous?? because he doesnt love you? obviously no.and of course, these definitely are restrictions which make sense and aren't silly like 'i don't want you to go out on Thursdays, just because i say so' or ' You can't eat green M&M's anymore, it really bothers me'. you are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex, well why not. maybe you even knew them before you knew me. fine. but is there ever a time where you can just hang out with that person by yourself when you're attached, and just say 'it's no big deal'? if you say nothing happened and nothing will ever happen, that's just a load of BS. relationships, and i mean real relationships, not those secondary/poly/jc puppy loves where a guy asks a girl to 'go steady' or vice versa and it lasts all of 3 weeks (or less). when it gets serious and you've been with that person for a wickedly long time until you know all their flaws, major/minor, their personality traits, bad habits, all the little things that make up the person whom you're deeply in love with, maybe sometimes the thought of actually being with that person forever slips in occasionally. and you wonder if that person wants the same thing you do. i don't mean silly, childish ramblings of so-called infinite love, like 'awww i love you so much and i wanna be with you forever!' i mean real commitment. i'm not afraid to say the word: marriage. the kind of commitment and seriousness that requires you to actually sit down and discuss it, at least for a certain period of time. not to say that a proposal has to be made there and then or a diamond ring to pop out of nowhere, just a simple talk where you ask your partner, have you ever thought of the future, of this relationship? love actually does hurt, both physically and emotionally. physically as in the bitter tears you shed for someone whom you thought she'll love u through the end of time, the countless promises, swears and assurances. but when you really think about it, you start to question whether it really was 'true love' and whether promises does prove anything but just a pact of lovey dovey sweet nothings that is a normality that a couple has to say to each other on a regular basis? it makes me wonder that what if another girl in future said " u jin.. i will love you forever and ever. i swear " hmmmmmmmmmmm..... iam afraid i would go " fuck you. quit the BS. who's gonna promise forever? " haha.emotional pain. well there's too much stuff that goes into that and quite frankly iam too lazy to mesh out the details of that. i do not know when or would i ever be able to find a girl that i would be so utterly comfortable with like iam with her...used to be. that i could feel so at ease bathing in front of her, peeing in front of her, messed-up hair with my hairband on, my unruly unshaved look, my specs on, the call from her at 3am to ask me over to accompany her...i'll literally fly over, the morning till evening ikea shoppings, the overnight paintings....etc..etc..etc......have she cleared her entire top shelf? have she deleted all the overseas pics?it ended so abruptly. too abruptly for me to handle.
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.SIM - RMIT - Bachelors in economics & finance.
alexanda mcqueeningly | chivas regalling | abosolut raspberringly | dogs lovering | jamming maddenly | jappie hairstyling | punk rock fashion tasting | haru sushing | holland v fonduing | rollerbladdingly | distinction stressingly / my special someone out there
besides that, Iam a grouchie grouch.
